Relationship Advice - Dealing With An Abusive Boyfriend

About 1 out of 3 teenagers has experienced violence in a dating relationship and this was shown in statistics. In most cases, one partner trying to maintain power and control over the other through some kind of abuse is involved.

Most victims of Dating violence are young women who are also at higher risk for serious injury. The highest per capita rates of intimate violence is experienced by women ages 16 to 24 and that's nearly 1 out of 50 women.

Most of the time, teen dating violence is hidden since teenagers are inexperienced, want independence from their parents, and they are pressured by peers to begin dating at an early age.

Some young men may believe they have the right to "control" you or they think they will lose "respect" if they are attentive and supportive toward their girlfriends.

Are you at fault?

Are you starting to think that maybe you are the one who is causing the problem? It is likely that you may think that his jealousy and abusiveness means he really loves you so much he can't control himself. Because you have friends that are also being abused, you might believe that this is also normal or you may think that you can change him.

You would be wrong on any of those counts and statistics prove that beyond a shadow of a doubt. In fact, your boyfriend will get worse until one day he hurts you really bad or even kills you if he is abusive now and he will not get better. Yes, it is that serious.

These are the questions that you need to ask yourself and if you answer yes to one or more of the following questions about the boy you are dating then you are in danger of having a serious problem. If several of these are yes, get a new boyfriend.

• Do you know if he is using alcohol or drugs?
• Have you noticed that he has extreme mood swings? Happy one minute and angry the next?
• Is he extremely jealous at times? Is he getting into fights with other boys who are paying attention to you?During intimacy or during an argument, does he use force?
• Is he blaming others or make excuses about his problems?
• Do you think that he is verbally abusive to you and is yelling all the time, putting you down, calling you stupid, and threatening you?
• Do you see him treating his mother with disrespect or is he mean to her. Do former girlfriends say he abused them?
• Does he try to control you or tell you what to do, who you can see, where you can go all the time?
• Does he try to keep you away from your family or try to make you dependent on him, telling you that he knows what is best for you and your family is always wrong?

Even two of those things is true, you need to break it off and get as far away from him as possible, because these are all signs of someone who abuses or will abuse women.

Are You ready to recover from Sexual Abuse?